Do you spend enough quality time with your family? 

By the end of this video [Complete with sub titles as an English Lesson] you will know how to effectively use one technique that I’ve used to have a fulfilling career and spend lots of quality time with my family. 

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My name is Mitch Rankin and I’m a co-founder of English Forward the Internet’s largest learn English Question and Answer and community website. We’ve reached over 300 million people and our aim in the next 10 years to reach 1 billion people. We help people find the tools that they need to have a successful life. 

To find out if you’re spending too much time at work and too little time with your family you need answer these three questions. 

Question number one. Does your dog bark at you when you get home? Only kidding! 

Question number two. How many times a week do you share a meal around a table together? The goal is to have 4 meals around a table discussing, talking about life and loving each other. 

And Question number three . How many times have you had to say “Sorry I’m late… again” 

Often the reason we have a work-life conflict is that we just can’t say “No” to our colleagues and our boss. We take on more and more work and we think that’s doing our part for the company but it’s really infringing on our personal time, and sometimes it’s just out of a need to want to be liked more by the people around us. 

So that’s you if you want to be liked by people just let me know by saying “Yes” in the comments below, it will give me some feedback and how I can address this and possibly help you with some thoughts.

Well I promise to share one thing with you that would help you get your work life family back on track and here it is.

You’ve just got to learn to say “No”. 

“No, No, No” and sometimes it’s really difficult just to say no like that to colleagues, but you can couch it in different ways.

You could say “I’m sorry I can’t help you with that right now I’ve got a prior commitment” or you could say “I apologize maybe we could get back to that later but I’m on the way to a meeting”, and all of those would be true if you’d made a commitment to your wife to be home for dinner with the kids or you’d promised to take her for a walk after work. 

Doing something new is never easy and setting boundaries all the more so, but I’d like to challenge you to do one thing today. Just start by saying “No” say no to one thing that you’ve been saying yes to all this time and see how it goes, and if you’ve got any great feedback I’d love to hear from you. I’d love to hear how this has helped you and possibly helped you see that you can actually have a work/life balance .

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